Beth writes

Tag: judgemental

  • I’m not a victim – a poem

    I wrote this as a way of addressing how disabled people are treated. We are often looked down on, seen as victims or vulnerable, and easy to bully.

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    I’m not a victim, I come back fighting,

    And I can pulverize the persecutors,

    I’ve eaten bullies for breakfast before,

    And if you dare degrade me, I will destroy.

    And I’m not a charity case for carers,

    I’m a human being with heart and hope.

    I’ll burn bridges before you cause harm,

    So don’t patronize me, I’m not pathetic,

    And if you think I’m thick, then fluff off.

  • Don’t judge what you can’t understand – or why people do

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    Today we are going to talk about prejudice. That’s something disabled, and learning disabled people see a lot.

    It’s not just people calling me a name or telling me to get a job.

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    I am also judged when someone automatically helps me.
    Instead of asking whether I need support, or waiting for me to say- they make an automatic assumption.
    The problem here? It makes me feel less capable to manage without that help.

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    It’s also judging, when someone is excluded or included in a social activity.

    The worst way of judging for me is when people say am amazing, just for handling what others manage normally. It’s like, others manage that, why shouldn’t I?

    And when (mostly older generation) people stare at me in public, guess what it is? Judging!

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    What else classes as judging?

    When you criticize how someone behaves, or tell them to go and get changed as they don’t look appropriate.

    It’s also when you assume someone isn’t capable of doing a job, or knowing an answer, cause of a disability.

    So the action to take on today is be careful about judging others please. We all do this, but if we are conscious of it we can change.